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10:28p, 10/10/25

Whatever BS is spread about AA by people who don't know anything about it, there is one thing it is important that everybody know: nobody will ever be turned away from AA for lack of money.

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11:26p, 10/10/25

"Most people pray to go to heaven,
Alcoholics pray to get out of hell."

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1:17a, 10/11/25

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The other big truth you need to realize is that addicts are liars. They have to lie to themselves every single day to keep doing what they're doing to themselves. They won't think twice about lying to the people that love them and that they claim to love. It's who they are, or who their disease turned them into if you want to think about it that way. So expect them to lie, and doubt what they tell you.

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5:30a, 10/11/25

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12:41p, 11/2/25

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What's an alcoholic?

Where is the threshold where one goes from "a guy who enjoys a drink" to an "alcoholic?"

After 10-12 years of drinking pretty darn regularly, but never to excess, I recently decided that I was probably an alcoholic.

Almost every evening I'd drink either 3/4s a bottle of wine or 2-3 pours of bourbon on ice. I wouldn't get "drunk." I hate being drunk. But I developed a habit and dependency and thought I was just "taking the edge off."

Recently, I woke at 3am, with a bourbon headache, and I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit telling me that if I didn't stop, something terrible would happen. I am not sure what - DUI? Cirrhosis?

So I've stopped completely. I don't want to drink ever again.

I think God has been sending me signs about it for a while. A lot of people I admire once drank and quit when they were about my age (45).

I never developed a sincere physical addiction- no shakes or anything, but the habit was there and I was on the path.

It's only been a short while but I am already appreciating what it feels like to be sober at night and clear headed in the morning.

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In reply to Seamaster • 8:14p, 11/3/25

And that's the problem with all addictions. No one starts off wanting to be an addict but it slowly grows on you. As time goes by the demon slowly takes over you and you don't even realize until the oh **** moment hits you. For some this comes sooner, for some it never comes. My grandfather told me at a young age "too much of anything is never good for you". At the time I was young and didn't think much of it. 35 years later I finally get what he meant.

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In reply to Seamaster • 9:23p, 11/3/25

Seamaster said:
What's an alcoholic?

Where is the threshold where one goes from "a guy who enjoys a drink" to an "alcoholic?"

After 10-12 years of drinking pretty darn regularly, but never to excess, I recently decided that I was probably an alcoholic.

Almost every evening I'd drink either 3/4s a bottle of wine or 2-3 pours of bourbon on ice. I wouldn't get "drunk." I hate being drunk. But I developed a habit and dependency and thought I was just "taking the edge off."

Recently, I woke at 3am, with a bourbon headache, and I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit telling me that if I didn't stop, something terrible would happen. I am not sure what - DUI? Cirrhosis?

So I've stopped completely. I don't want to drink ever again.

I think God has been sending me signs about it for a while. A lot of people I admire once drank and quit when they were about my age (45).

I never developed a sincere physical addiction- no shakes or anything, but the habit was there and I was on the path.

It's only been a short while but I am already appreciating what it feels like to be sober at night and clear headed in the morning.

It wasn't god. It was your friends, family but most importantly yourself. You made the change. Nothing else. Congrats

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In reply to Hill08 • 8:58a

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Hill08 said:
Seamaster said:
What's an alcoholic?

Where is the threshold where one goes from "a guy who enjoys a drink" to an "alcoholic?"

After 10-12 years of drinking pretty darn regularly, but never to excess, I recently decided that I was probably an alcoholic.

Almost every evening I'd drink either 3/4s a bottle of wine or 2-3 pours of bourbon on ice. I wouldn't get "drunk." I hate being drunk. But I developed a habit and dependency and thought I was just "taking the edge off."

Recently, I woke at 3am, with a bourbon headache, and I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit telling me that if I didn't stop, something terrible would happen. I am not sure what - DUI? Cirrhosis?

So I've stopped completely. I don't want to drink ever again.

I think God has been sending me signs about it for a while. A lot of people I admire once drank and quit when they were about my age (45).

I never developed a sincere physical addiction- no shakes or anything, but the habit was there and I was on the path.

It's only been a short while but I am already appreciating what it feels like to be sober at night and clear headed in the morning.

It wasn't god. It was your friends, family but most importantly yourself. You made the change. Nothing else. Congrats

I'm sure that telling a person of faith that their breakthrough was based entirely on delusion will be a great encouragement. Thanks for this wonderful contribution.

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In reply to Seamaster • 9:19a

Seamaster said:
What's an alcoholic?

Where is the threshold where one goes from "a guy who enjoys a drink" to an "alcoholic?"

After 10-12 years of drinking pretty darn regularly, but never to excess, I recently decided that I was probably an alcoholic.

Almost every evening I'd drink either 3/4s a bottle of wine or 2-3 pours of bourbon on ice. I wouldn't get "drunk." I hate being drunk. But I developed a habit and dependency and thought I was just "taking the edge off."

Recently, I woke at 3am, with a bourbon headache, and I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit telling me that if I didn't stop, something terrible would happen. I am not sure what - DUI? Cirrhosis?

So I've stopped completely. I don't want to drink ever again.

I think God has been sending me signs about it for a while. A lot of people I admire once drank and quit when they were about my age (45).

I never developed a sincere physical addiction- no shakes or anything, but the habit was there and I was on the path.

It's only been a short while but I am already appreciating what it feels like to be sober at night and clear headed in the morning.

Pretty powerful testimony. Thank you for sharing that with us.

My hope is all here read this and are willing to look deeply at themselves as you have.

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In reply to Scotts Tot • 12:24p

Scotts Tot said:
Hill08 said:
Seamaster said:
What's an alcoholic?

Where is the threshold where one goes from "a guy who enjoys a drink" to an "alcoholic?"

After 10-12 years of drinking pretty darn regularly, but never to excess, I recently decided that I was probably an alcoholic.

Almost every evening I'd drink either 3/4s a bottle of wine or 2-3 pours of bourbon on ice. I wouldn't get "drunk." I hate being drunk. But I developed a habit and dependency and thought I was just "taking the edge off."

Recently, I woke at 3am, with a bourbon headache, and I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit telling me that if I didn't stop, something terrible would happen. I am not sure what - DUI? Cirrhosis?

So I've stopped completely. I don't want to drink ever again.

I think God has been sending me signs about it for a while. A lot of people I admire once drank and quit when they were about my age (45).

I never developed a sincere physical addiction- no shakes or anything, but the habit was there and I was on the path.

It's only been a short while but I am already appreciating what it feels like to be sober at night and clear headed in the morning.

It wasn't god. It was your friends, family but most importantly yourself. You made the change. Nothing else. Congrats

I'm sure that telling a person of faith that their breakthrough was based entirely on delusion will be a great encouragement. Thanks for this wonderful contribution.

You're welcome. People need to understand that THEY control their lives. Having faith is just fine, but decisions on this earth are because of human beings making decisions